Category Archives: February 2011

It’s not about fairness or even win/win. Stop keeping score. Your win is all about the other person’s win. Be a first giver, not a last giver. The universe is a first giver. If we comprehend how many gifts we’ve already been given, we might better understand the value of being a first giver ourselves. Continue reading →

Persistence and unstoppability can be impressive and effective in the short run, but I also suggest you listen to the right “nos”. Listen to your true voice or intuition, which might give you a soft ‘no’, or a beckon in a precessional direction. I have learned the hard way. Continue reading →

I interview the authors of book: Go for No! Yes is the Destination, No is How You Get There. A message about how rejection can empower you instead of weaken you. Inspired by the author’s own experience, the book tells of two parallel characters – One takes past advice; the other does not. What would the future you offer as advice? Increase your failures to increase your successes. Don’t pre-judge. Let people answer for themselves, and you’ll get yourself out of the way. Neutralize your emotional reaction to both ‘yes’ and ‘no’. Published in 2000, the book itself is a story of persistence and tenacity. Continue reading →

Your fear of the word “no” stands between you and greatness. The author tells of being mentored by his future self, having taken advice sooner rather than later. Have a quota of “nos”, not “yeses”. Wrap your heart in a loving response to all “nos” you get, and their various sources. Only you can make the “no” mean something, so translate every “no” into something good. You are growing into a fruit-bearing tree that does not discriminate about who picks from it. What lessons already reside in your mind, but need to be sparked into life? Are you ready to apply what you already know? Continue reading →